The most popular men’s lifestyle website had an article this week giving instructions to men that offered advice to men on how to get a woman to procure an abortion even if she doesn’t want one.
The article in AskMen.com called Dealing with an Unwanted Pregnancy starts with:
An unplanned and unwanted pregnancy can dramatically affect an otherwise loving long-term relationship. Some men rejoice, but others simply aren’t ready to be fathers. If they discussed the possibility and specifics at the start of the relationship, he may hope she’s going to stick to the original plan and terminate the pregnancy. And she might — but for some women, getting pregnant can start clocks ticking and make them suddenly want to be mothers, despite previous agreements.
In either case, the final decision is hers, which means she has ultimate say in whether or not you become a father. This can put tremendous stress on a relationship, particularly if don’t want to have a child, but don’t want to lose the girl, either. While you can’t force her to do your bidding, you can get her to consider your wants and desires if you approach her correctly. After all, your life could be drastically altered by her decision, which certainly entitles you to speak your mind — you just need to take care with the presentation. Read on for tips on dealing with an unwanted pregnancy.
It’s written by a woman as some insider-type guide to coercing your woman to get an abortion. But all the tips are guided towards avoiding the pitfalls that might make the woman actually carry the baby to term. It talks about keeping the woman calm and using the word “we” instead of “I” but only as tools to obtain the objective which is a dead baby.
Here’s some of the lowlights:
You’ll also want to take care with your word choice; pregnant women tend to feel like they’re carrying someone, as opposed to something, even if she is just a month or so pregnant. You can’t just talk about having an abortion the same way you’d talk about having a cavity filled. Sensitivity is key. Toss words like “it” around too many times, and she’s going to start feeling like she needs to defend “it” from you.
This gem is so caring:
She needs your emotional support or she could wind up feeling isolated to the point of despair — and women in despair rarely make rational decisions
And this lovely sentiment:
If you’ve followed all of these steps and your woman decides to have the baby anyway, this does not mean you’re required to get married or move in together. You’ll probably want to provide for your child regardless, but if you’ve been clear about your intentions from the start, you are not obligated to contribute beyond what your conscience and the law expects of you. This was her decision, not yours, and the bulk of the responsibility is now hers.
Prenatal pros: Take a moment to spell this out for her when she gives you the final decision; it may just sway her over to your side.
Yes, in that last sentence the female author of the piece is promoting threatening women with abandonment unless they have an abortion.
So not only do we dehumanize the babies but also their mothers. The only thing that matters, I guess, is what “I” want when “I” want it. All others are obstacles or aids that either help or hinder the all important immediate happiness of “I.”
HT Jill Stanek