CNN Health reports on a startling finding. Promiscuity decreases your chances of finding a good husband.
They looked at the results from a number of national studies including the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health and the National Study of Youth and Religion, in addition to interviews with young people ages 18 to 23.
Researchers found that since women in the 18- to 23-year-old group feel they don’t need men for financial dependence, many of them feel they can play around with multiple partners without consequence, and that the early 20s isn’t the time to have a serious relationship. But eventually, they do come to want a real, lasting relationship. The problem is that there will still be women who will have sex readily without commitment, and since men know this, fewer of them are willing to go steady.
“Women have plenty of freedom, but freedom does not translate easily into getting what you want,” Regnerus said.
Like I said. Duh!
Like Gramma would say: Free Milk. Cow. Etc. Duh!
Pre-marital sex increases you chances of STDs, unplanned pregnancy, divorce, and disappointment. And this is what the whole culture of sexual revolution is built upon. You say you want a revolution, well you can count me out.
January 21, 2011 at 12:33 pm
I just finished reading a book about why Generation Xers in large numbers aren't getting married. The amount of hooking up (sex without committment or payment) was rampant among the never-marrieds, but I found that it became strange to read. They blamed a host of reasons such as technology, a culture of divorce, and other factors as to why these college educated, professionals never tied the knot, but the consequences of promiscuity didn't factor in as much as I would guess. With rampant disease among those who subscribe to the free-sex policies on every college campus, my guess is that many of these folks can't find a partner who will marry someone who has several uncurable STDs and is likely sterile. No matter how much money they make or how pretty they are, would you want to marry someone who will give you herpes, etc and can't give you kids?
January 21, 2011 at 2:34 pm
There was also an article I read a few weeks ago (can't remember where) that said, statistically, by age 30 all the good guyd ARE taken.
They looked at certain anti-social behaviors (drunkeness, drug use, promiscuity, petty crime, assault, cursing, inability to hold a job, etc….) and found that the guys without them tend to get snatched up pretty fast (makes sense… anecdotally, all the Eagle Scouts I know got married before 30)
And then you're left with the anti-social guys. Some of these can be 'cured' by marriage, others not so much.
SO maybe the decline in marriage is actually due to the decline in boys with fathers at home? Because we know not having a dad can lead to all the anti-social behaviors…
MEANWHILE, the guys who ARE 'eagle scout' types aren't looking for promiscuous girls. So they get snatched off the market by the non-promiscuous ones. Then, by the time Miss "just wanna have fun" just wants to get married, most of the guys left aren't marriage material!
January 21, 2011 at 4:43 pm
Sadly, it is not just this age group, but rather across the entire population. In The Villages, a retirement community in Central Florida, the STD rate is one of the highest in the area. This epidemic reaches across all ages and economic groups.
While it is true that women are profoundly affected, men are profoundly affected, as well. The opportunity to sacrifice for someone beyond yourself, to enter areas of your soul that lead to life and peace although possibly uncomfortable and even painful at the moment – that is a great loss for both genders. Possibly even the loss of one's soul. It saddens me to know that so many people who long for love are willing to settle for a counterfeit that kills.
January 21, 2011 at 7:02 pm
Those who sow the wind shall reap the whirlwind. (Hosea 8:7)