Hell Hath no fury like a woman scorned. Exceptin’ of course of a radical feminist New York lawyer scorned by SAHMs. Wow.
I have to admit that when I meet a woman who I know is a graduate of, say, Princeton — one who has read The Second Sex and therefore ought to know better — but is still a full-time wife, I feel betrayed. I’m not much of a moralist — I have absolutely no right to be — but in the interest of doing what’s right both for me personally and for women generally, I have been strict with myself about earning my keep.
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To be a stay-at-home mom is a privilege, and most of the housewives I have ever met — none of whom do anything around the house — live in New York City and Los Angeles, far from Peoria. Only in these major metropolises are there the kinds of jobs in finance and entertainment that allow for a family to live luxe on a single income. In any case, having forgotten everything but the lotus position, these women are the reason their husbands think all women are dumb, and I don’t blame them.
My wife stays at home and she struggles to make the two plug nickels we have left at the end of the month go as far as humanly possible. Staying at home is a sacrifice, not a luxury. And my wife is way smarter than any feminist New York lawyer.
June 18, 2012 at 7:36 pm
Not to denigrate your wife by any means, but "smarter than any feminist New York lawyer" is not a very high bar to clear.
June 18, 2012 at 7:37 pm
I guess since I am in LA and stay at home I must be living "luxe" on one income. Who knew?!?
June 18, 2012 at 7:38 pm
Thank you! I am a full time mother of three including a disabled child, and I still get those rude comments from my own family.
Some Catholicism!
But when my daughter is accepted into Franciscan University RN program with a scholarship, I know it was all worthwhile.
June 18, 2012 at 7:44 pm
oh my gosh – what an article! i'm offended probably because i'm a stay-at-home mom in peoria. lol. the poor woman (bless her heart) who has never met a homeschooling mom – i guarantee i spend a LOT more than 14% more time with my children than a full-time-working mother. and i love it. and heck with me depending on my husband – in this relationship, he depends on me just as much as i depend on him. money isn't everything, lady.
June 18, 2012 at 7:47 pm
So a woman who marries a wealthy NY or LA muckily muck then convinces him to let her stay home to "take care of the kids" but really spends her time buying designer clothes and sipping lattes is dumb? I think these women are geniuses. Does Princeton have a class in trophy wife?
June 18, 2012 at 8:18 pm
Very funny, Lauren!
June 18, 2012 at 8:21 pm
A stay at home mom gives her children the greatest gift of all – a family.
June 18, 2012 at 8:24 pm
I find it sad that her entire self worth is based on a pay check. I second Laurel. Money isn't everything, and I know my husband would be completely lost without me, as I would be without him.
June 18, 2012 at 9:16 pm
I was a stay at home mom and am now a working mom due to my husband losing his job. Being a stay at home mom is the hardest job there is. Your work is never done. I miss being home with my kids all the time. I loved being there when they got home from school.
June 18, 2012 at 10:44 pm
These "feminists" who despise all things feminine are usually commies who want everyone in the workforce producing for the state ruling class who decides what they shall eat, drink, read, watch, think, etc., etc. all according to "green" gospel. People pushers condemning Gods chosen order for a socially engineered, perfect, earthly "utopia". It's all religion.
June 19, 2012 at 12:21 am
What a joke! The only jobs that allow for living on a single income are in New Yuck and LA? Who knew?
Quick, someone tell me wife (who has been a stay-at-home mom for the last 20 years, since leaving Govt. Service for a break-even paycheck). We might have to leave Memphis!
June 19, 2012 at 12:26 am
So women should be part-time wives only – never full-time? Interesting and disturbing view of marriage.
June 19, 2012 at 12:43 am
Feeloaders only because the state has counted all you have as theirs. Dumb because you can think for yourself and that is the only way they can insult and disrespect you.
June 19, 2012 at 1:30 am
We would spend more money on daycare than my wife was making as a public school teacher if she had kept her job. So…
I can tell you she works a whole heckuva lot harder than I do, too.
June 19, 2012 at 2:12 am
"I'm not much of a moralist — I have absolutely no right to be" BUT (Insert moralist crap here).
She should go back to Logic 101 and learn what a contradiction is. Then maybe she can swing in the leagues of the SAHMs who home school and use their brains daily, and not just for an occasional bitter bile dump in the Atlantic.
Jealous much.
June 19, 2012 at 5:31 am
I think she's reaching the point of realizing how empty the career is in comparison to spending the time and effort in your family.
You're never as essential to your job/co-workers as you are to your children/spouse. The culture lied! Admitting that is woefully painful.
Not that she doesn't have a point. Some women "stay home" but never immerse themselves in the raising of their children; they complain and avoid and seek "me-time" relentlessly. This is possibly less admirable than producing a paycheck. (although I don't care if some guy is willing to finance it.) Somehow, I don't think she's extolling the more invested mothers.
Those who feel obliged to dump on SAHM's are generally beginning the mid-life crisis, and need to lash out.
Yep. Contraception and career-as-life sold you prime real-estate in the Florida swamps.
Please don't dump on those who didn't buy-in.
June 19, 2012 at 10:14 am
"A stay at home mom gives her children the greatest gift of all – a family."
But when she discards her husband, because she can, sleeps with another and "gives HER family" to her coadulterer with the help and cooperation of the Church, THEN she is special.
Stay at home moms are as good as their character. Some are remarkably wonderful and blessings to not only their families; others are simply horrendous. I pray for both but wish the latter would pause to realistically see beyond their selfishness. We need more of the former.
Karl
June 19, 2012 at 3:04 pm
God bless stay-at-home moms
June 19, 2012 at 3:38 pm
Last Summer I was standing at the bus stop in 100+ weather. By the time I got to work I was soaked with sweat and sick. My sister in law on the other hand was still at home lying in her California King bed. Tell me again that I'm smarter than her.
June 19, 2012 at 5:09 pm
Uh, wat do they thar mean, that I'm dumb? I aint get it. I mean, I work 20 hours a day and stay at me home raisin' me chillens and bein' a corporate bu'ness CEO… or is it CFO? Dang darn it, I caint remember! But gall darn it, I'm a PRIVILLEGED woman, I am! And my chillen's are pri'lleged to uv had our home skool fer 6 years. Yes-sir-ee!