The normalization of the deviant has gone mainstream.
The Daily Beast (aka Newsweek) want you to know that Porn mommies are every bit as good as mommies who decry whoredom. You are the problem.
Daniels and Crain carefully planned when they would become parents and didn’t conceive by accident. The 33-year-old Daniels says, “I had to work really hard and prepare a lot to have a baby because I’m not like a normal mom. I can’t work while I’m pregnant. I did two years of work in one year.” Wicked Pictures provided Daniels the extended time off for maternity leave and made it possible for her to return to work when she was ready. Daniels’s fans have been supportive of her becoming a mom: sometimes they bring her gifts at appearances, things for the baby from Toys-R-Us or Starbucks gift cards for the parents. The latter helps Daniels cope with the sleepless nights all moms with a toddler experience.
But there’s a dark side—and others have not been as kind as her fans. Daniels has had to contend with some ugly criticism. She kept her pregnancy a secret to avoid negativity, but hateful personal attacks surfaced against her and her newborn child when someone congratulated her on Twitter after the birth of her daughter, who is now 19 months old. The underlying message: Daniels was undeserving to be a mother because of her adult career.
When I asked Daniels why people would react so harshly, there was no easy answer. Daniels said, “It’s just all the negativity towards the adult industry in general, or people’s fear,” she says.
Just like the discrimination same-sex couples raising children face, moms who work in the adult industry are thought to be incapable of nurturing healthy children and imparting good values because their lifestyles and careers are perceived to be immoral. A caricature of the porn-star mom persists. People might imagine the Amber Waves character, played by Julianne Moore, in the movie Boogie Nights. Amber is a coked-out, troubled adult actress of the 1980s portrayed as an unfit mother because of her career. But in reality, just because a mom has worked or currently works in the adult industry, it doesn’t mean she can’t be a good parent.
We are so doomed.
