The normalization of the deviant has gone mainstream.
The Daily Beast (aka Newsweek) want you to know that Porn mommies are every bit as good as mommies who decry whoredom. You are the problem.
Daniels and Crain carefully planned when they would become parents and didn’t conceive by accident. The 33-year-old Daniels says, “I had to work really hard and prepare a lot to have a baby because I’m not like a normal mom. I can’t work while I’m pregnant. I did two years of work in one year.” Wicked Pictures provided Daniels the extended time off for maternity leave and made it possible for her to return to work when she was ready. Daniels’s fans have been supportive of her becoming a mom: sometimes they bring her gifts at appearances, things for the baby from Toys-R-Us or Starbucks gift cards for the parents. The latter helps Daniels cope with the sleepless nights all moms with a toddler experience.
But there’s a dark side—and others have not been as kind as her fans. Daniels has had to contend with some ugly criticism. She kept her pregnancy a secret to avoid negativity, but hateful personal attacks surfaced against her and her newborn child when someone congratulated her on Twitter after the birth of her daughter, who is now 19 months old. The underlying message: Daniels was undeserving to be a mother because of her adult career.
When I asked Daniels why people would react so harshly, there was no easy answer. Daniels said, “It’s just all the negativity towards the adult industry in general, or people’s fear,” she says.
Just like the discrimination same-sex couples raising children face, moms who work in the adult industry are thought to be incapable of nurturing healthy children and imparting good values because their lifestyles and careers are perceived to be immoral. A caricature of the porn-star mom persists. People might imagine the Amber Waves character, played by Julianne Moore, in the movie Boogie Nights. Amber is a coked-out, troubled adult actress of the 1980s portrayed as an unfit mother because of her career. But in reality, just because a mom has worked or currently works in the adult industry, it doesn’t mean she can’t be a good parent.
We are so doomed.
August 24, 2012 at 2:17 pm
Do you feel the overwhelming desire to bang your head against the wall as often as I do?
Society is in the sewer. I hope my small prayers can be enough to just slightly assuage the damage. Sometimes I feel like I'm so small, how big of a difference can I make. Then, I have to remember the mustard seed. 🙂
August 24, 2012 at 3:07 pm
She even says that when her daughter grows up and may want to be in the porn industry that Daniels wouldn't encourage it. Of course not becasue she knows what it really does to Women who are in it.
"The way people would treat her" God help us, it's not that she can't be a good person, but what she does isn't something that you just turn away from. I don't hate pornstars I pray for them , they are some of the most fine of God's creations well they are Women so of course they are the best creation of God, but that's why we don't smile upon what they do.
August 24, 2012 at 4:31 pm
"A caricature of the porn-star mom persists." My goodness, what is the alternative? The idea that she is an absolutely normal mom the rest of the time and then heads off to her porn-star job? How likely is that? People are INSANE.
August 24, 2012 at 4:34 pm
This is what the article says about the author: "Kristin Battista-Frazee is a marketing director for the MSW@USC at 2tor, Inc., a company partnering with top-ranked universities to bring their graduate degree programs online. She is also a social worker who is writing a memoir, The Pornographer’s Daughter, and she is represented by the Kayser Pierce Literary Agency. Follow her on Twitter and visit her website at porndaughter.com."
You're right: We are so doomed.
August 24, 2012 at 4:40 pm
"…caricature of the porn-star mom…"
Well DUH! Cry me a stinking river. You can bet your sweet patootie she'll never be mistaken for June Cleaver.
August 24, 2012 at 5:37 pm
Here's an idea: if you would be embarrassed to bring your child for a visit to the office, you should probably consider a career change.
August 24, 2012 at 10:24 pm
I love these "holy" sites where everyone constantly says how bad everyone else is and how horrible society is. You can't wait to be the first one to cast a stone. Take the log out of your own eye and pray for those you obviously deem less than yourselves.
August 24, 2012 at 10:38 pm
Calling a spade a spade is not casting a stone, slick. When someone asserts that pornography is in essence some normal, healthy way for someone to make a living, it is our DUTY to tell them that they are wrong.
August 24, 2012 at 11:17 pm
When abortion is as widely accepted as it is, and sexuality is as distorted, then yes, it is in the sewer. That is not judging people so much as mores, and there isn't anything wrong with that. It's a judgment of action, not souls.
I'm a sinner, too. But I can strongly object to the "values " encouraged in our times.
August 25, 2012 at 7:03 am
When the forest grows too wild a purging fire is inevitable. —-Raz Alghoul
August 25, 2012 at 4:01 pm
@Slick: please tell me you realize the irony of coming here just to make such a mind-bogglingly self-righteous remark?
August 26, 2012 at 12:51 am
You know what? I've seen people leave evil ways of life after epiphanies they had when looking into their children's eyes. Let's just pray that happens for all parents who are in twisted lifestyles.
August 27, 2012 at 1:02 am
I don't know why people are so upset; it's not like porn is addicting or breaks-up marriages.