Lolo Jones is a pretty 29 year old Olympian and a virgin. In a recent interview on HBO’s Real Sports she spoke about her virginity in a way that made some leftist heads explode.
“I just don’t believe in it.” Jones said. “It’s just a gift I want to give my husband. But please understand this journey has been hard. There’s virgins out there and I want to let them know that it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life; harder than training for the Olympics; harder than graduating from college has been to stay a virgin before marriage. I’ve been tempted, I’ve had plenty of opportunities.”
Alexandra Gekas writing at, ahem, “The Frisky” says she WOULD respect her decision (she doesn’t) except for this whole GIFT thing.
However, my respect for Jones’ decision has one big “but,” and that is because of one little sentence: “It’s just a gift I want to give my husband.”
Virginity, by definition, is simply the state of a person who has not engaged in sexual intercourse. But we all know that there are many more implications to it than that, especially for women. Most traditional societies, cultures and religions place a high value on a woman’s virginity aka her chastity. So much so that it is tightly bound to her worth and her perceived self-worth.
With this archaic notion of “value” placed on a woman’s virginity comes the belief that exclusive rights to her womb should be saved for the highest bidder; that it is a commodity to be bought (in most cases by her husband) and sold (usually by her father). And if she gives it away or, God forbid, it is taken from her, she loses value as a woman and as a human being.
Wow.
What Ms. Gekas and others like cannot understand is that purity is a gift to us, a gift that has value. When someone chooses to steward that gift so that they can gift it in love in the setting of marriage that is something truly wonderful and valuable.
But it makes some people very angry when you speak like this. Not because of some silly notion of “exclusive rights to the womb” nonsense. It makes people angry when someone ascribes such value to something they themselves gave away without any thought. They don’t want to think about what they threw away.
If you gave away a Babe Ruth signed baseball because you didn’t think it had any value, you certainly wouldn’t like it if someone kept talking about how priceless it was would’ya?
Good for Lolo Jones.
May 31, 2012 at 4:45 am
Ah, yes. Another piece of evidence (as if we needed it) that the Left's promotion of choice in all things only applies when they make it for you. Choose different values? Then their respect suddenly "has one big 'but.'"
May 31, 2012 at 5:45 am
The leftismistist dogmatic faith allows everyone freedom to whatever except for when the electorate votes incorrectly.
May 31, 2012 at 11:57 am
And, of course, the left will never consider the possibility women like this see their virginity and the act of sex as something special they're meant to share with someone who will, you know, promise to stick around.
She is choosing to live this lifestyle, and it's not good enough. Liberal feminism is not about choice; they make that abundantly clear every single day.
May 31, 2012 at 2:41 pm
It makes people angry when someone ascribes such value to something they themselves gave away without any thought. They don't want to think about what they threw away.
Yes. A classic case of Envy as opposed to jealousy. Jealousy is when you see someone in possession of a good and want it for yourself. Envy however is truly ugly in that one sees another in possession of a good they don't have and want to destroy it. Progressivism–all about chaos and destruction.
May 31, 2012 at 2:59 pm
This is very nice, but she makes abstaining from sex seem like an accomplishment only possible for extraordinary, super-human Olympians. This, too, elevates sex to a position of unholy power. Virginity used to be the normal and default state of people when they married, right? If its become so hard, then we are already in thrall to it and barely notice.
What normal kid would even try for virginity if its harder than training for the Olympics, harder than college?
Also, virginity is a gift you give yourself, as is any virtue and the possession of it.
I want to give her all the credit due her, but I still think there is some fuzzy thinking about sexuality being transmitted here.
May 31, 2012 at 4:32 pm
I certainly believe that there was a time when keeping one's virginity intact was the norm and, therefore, not so difficult. However, in today's age, the pressure to engage in premarital sex is everywhere. The culture of promiscuity has so permeated our world that the temptation to give in is everywhere, and ridicule for protecting one's virginity is common.
Comparing her struggles to being more difficult than training may make it seem impossible, however, I think that it demonstrates that, no matter how difficult it might seem to be, the fact is, it IS possible. And not just because she is some ugly, social cast out. On the contrary, she is young, beautiful, and in the spotlight of the world with all kinds of attention.
May 31, 2012 at 6:10 pm
THE VIRTUES ARE THEIR OWN REWARD. Poverty, chastitty and obedience bring their own joy. Virginity is a special love to be given only once to the beloved. All mankind is begotten in perfect innocence and virginity, the standard of Justice in the world. THE VICES ARE THEIR OWN PUNISHMENT.
June 1, 2012 at 5:41 am
Ms. Gekas thinks high mileage is a good thing for a vagina. How many guys can walk uo to her husband anf say "i know what it's like to copulate with your wife."?
June 3, 2012 at 3:34 pm
Anonymous 12:41 A.M. : "high mileage" a nice way to say something bad.