Here’s your money quote from the WaPo:

It’s hard to assess exactly what happened at the lunch with Nucatola. The antiabortion group had complete control over the filming and editing of the footage. The group also posted a nearly three-hour version of the video that it’s calling the “full footage,” though there is no way to verify that the video is truly complete.

So you see, it’s just impossible to get to the bottom of this. Might as well talk about something else. Look, there’s Caitlyn Jenner!!!